LOVE SUSTAINABILITY Vs. SUSTAINABLE LOVE

Recently I had an unplanned encounter with a beautiful married couple exploring some shocking facts about their married life, it felt that the dust of time has faded the spark between them and they are just carrying the corpus of their relationship on their shoulders. At the beginning of the married life, they vowed about spending a splendid life together and with the passage of time and coping with the turbulence of the married life, relationships, relatives, social obligations and need for survival has eaten up all the juices and dreams they had seen together. A life which they aspired to be living hand in hand is lost somewhere and now remains the ruins of a relationship that have pillars engraved marriage on it but no signs of life within. Unfortunately, this is not the scenario with the married couples only in the similar fashion the teenagers falling in the beautiful province of Love and affection by just seeing each other on their first encounter at places exposed for easy realization of the feeling of liking, love, lust, and association like colleges, institutes, marriage function, social gatherings, offices, etc., are not an exception to the fact. Everything starts with the rosy pictures of love, ecstasy and perfectionism moving towards a dream world but soon they get into the trap of controlling each other on the name of love and emotions. Acceptance of a relationship that was lovely initially doesn’t generate similar tastes and emotions. It all happens for a reason that what seems Love for one is generally not love for both. Love is a broader term and needs to be seen with the ability to sustain in the long term. What is Love Sustainability and What is Sustainable Love? These are very big questions that keep on banging in my mind often. 

 Is there something like Sustainable Love that exists or it’s just the physical or mental pleasures that keep two bodied tied together for some duration and the moment one loses its degree, sustainability starts losing it’s the place. “Love Sustainability is a definition based on efforts of carrying a relationship whereas Sustainable Love is a verb, which is based on the natural principals of action and being free from possessions”. Love sustainability is the situation that can be achieved by being there for someone you care and respect either due to, choice, situation, circumstances or by chance but it requires a different level of a journey to be traveled from one sphere to another to reach the level of Sustainable love. Efforts can help you sustain the love for longer duration as a result of the power of association and social obligation and you can live a peaceful yet juiceless life. Whereas there is something which is more powerful, an association which is based on understanding, knowing, accepting the individual, being the guiding and motivating force for the partner and remaining partners in expectations, dreams, sorrows, happiness, adventures, mistakes and crimes and being ready to let go the person for one’s choice and life, which in turn reflects the acceptance of being human and being flawsome and yet being admired, accepted, appreciated and promoted always. Sustainable love gives you freedom and assurance of being there irrespective of time, place, situation, adversities and foundation. It is a bird flying high in the sky of emotions, trust, belief, expectations, and contentment. Feeling like one particular love that goes on beyond everything. The one in which I was and I am loved back. Profusely, passionately, with no restraint. Not for weeks, or months but years. The one where you’re loved just so much that when love ends, you don’t know if and how to live anymore. The one where you believe everything will be just alright only if you’re with the person but the person stops feeling that way as time passes. The one where love stays with one foot out, eager to wear shoes and run out as soon as the opportunity presents itself. And then one day, it does so. After crying foul, you accept. You let the love go, you set it free. Only to find out that it doesn’t really want to leave, it never wanted to, it just wanted to let go of your hold because your hold was suffocating it. Now it’s free, free not from you, but free to love you like the way it wants to. You find it hard to accept. It’s easier to accept departure than accepting the return, especially when it’s not returning to you the way you want. But you have no choice. You have started liking this free body that your love has become, floating in space, loving you in ways you didn’t know it could, loving you in ways you didn’t think you deserved. It’s a cosmic shower, No need for an umbrella.