Democratic Individuality vs Individualistic Democracy

It seems like a chain of various definitions, which emerge from the concept of democratic set up established for mankind, irrespective of legislative framework, set rules, boundaries, emotions, believes, actions and perceptions etc. Every single step leads towards the vindication of other with utmost depth and girth all put together. While we have imbibed the concept of Democratic Relationships as a part of our political and legislative system at large but are still struggling miserably to deliberate Relationship Democracy at its deserving levels. The question arises where all these starts from? What is the origin of this Amazon, which has the power to water the continents of thoughts and lives in an unprecedented way? Is there really a thumb rule which can set up things in a scientific way and create nonpareil impact on people and society at large? Is there a set formula which can help people to place the height of relationships at sky level and can never bother to lose one despite all disturbances of life, beliefs and emotions?

The answer lies in the deep understanding the precursor of Democratic Relationship and Relationship Democracy concepts, it all starts with a scarcely thought concept of Democratic Individuality vs Individualistic Democracy, it is so scared a concept that we often tend to ignore it in our lives and bear the consequences throughout. Democratic Individuality comes as a birth and fundamental right to live, follow your religion, opt a profession of your choice, choose your partner, freedom to cast your vote etc. and entire machinery functions towards making us a person of these set rights and values and we get so accustomed with this setup that we stop thinking about anything beyond its boundaries. It’s a slow death from the day child emerges from her mother’s womb to this unstructured yet perceived as extremely structured world. The legislative and societal norms make herculean efforts to restrict and kill the slightest possibility of the emergence of a prospective super power which one can become, live and serve differently. It all seems like a written contract which gives you all the provisions to become a party to arrangements but have no right to table your difference in opinion, choices and requirements. Till the time one starts to understand the life beyond these virtual boundaries one can never dream to reach the wideness of Individualistic Democracy.

Individualistic Democracy opens the door of understanding and acceptance of oneself as one different and unique identity that has its own set of experiences, believes, choices, dreams and imparts freedom to own the responsibility of one’s life in the way one wants. It breaks all the walls of customs, obligations and liabilities, and starts accepting a person as living being with uncertainty of emotions basis the situations and circumstances. It gives full freedom to design one’s life in a way that one feels best for self. It brings such a unique approach wherein you become part of the journey of another in such a way that you share same berth, same food, same coach and halt at all the stations falling in between together in an effort to reach the station of your choices, yet you experience a different world of emotions and connect. Every second is an opportunity to experience different emotions, meeting different people and sharing some precious moments those are so fragile in nature that you may not see them ever in a lifetime, yet they become part of your good and bad memories. You laugh, scream, run, lie on ground, see the fields from the window seat of your coach, listen to the music of your choice and yet experience the outside voices trying to penetrate through your eardrums but makes no difference to you at all, as you are living your own world in that moment and it makes no difference to you slightly on what others say, think and perceive, as you know this journey is going to end, sooner or later and you can spend it by just lying on the berth and doing nothing, or you may choose otherwise and make entire coach and bogies attached as your extended home and you run, live, fall and die the way you want. Some passengers may become Integral part of your life and can attain the status of soulmate, some can be termed as best mates for life, some can be a good/bad partners of the journey and you may feel to remember or forget them based on the intensity and experiences you had, and a vast majority lies unaddressed and unknown, they all see you, observe you and may form an opinion about you and you may do so in return but broadly they doesn’t matter at all, neither they have any association, influence and relation with your journey and life nor it will be ever and it gives a shit how they feel about you as they are just virtually present but their existence doesn’t matter to you at all, but the irony is vast majority just think about these masses and make all big choices of their lives basis them, which just opens the doors of self-destructions, disappointments, failures and discontentment for one in long run.

Here comes the role of Individualistic Democracy in the life of a person, the day we realize that we all are part of that same train and have our own stations, preferences, choices, experiences and mood swings, then why we try to impose the same on others? We are not alone in this world and there will be people and partners in our journey together some at existential level, some at association level and majority don’t matter at all, yet we remain focused primarily on what is unessential and irrelevant completely. But the big problem starts when those who matters and are integral part of your journey stops acknowledging you as an Individual and the mystery is that they are the first ones to put the anchor on your lives. For them you are an asset, possession and investment made over time and all your acts and decisions must be based on their likings and beliefs. Which gives birth to another existential crisis which is most dangerous and difficult to overcome. As over time you get so immune to all these rules and expectations that you tend to forget your true self. The burden of paying the debt of all their association becomes so heavy that you lose your own identity and the day comes when you die unhappy, unsatisfied and unlived. Individualistic Democracy gives democratic freedom and rights to Individual to live one’s life based on one’s likings, choices and beliefs and acceptance of other person existence with whole openness and the way one is. It doesn’t provide you the freedom to become volatile and extremist that you start interfering in the life of others, rather it falls upon you as a responsibility to provide similar Individualistic Democracy (ID) to another person too.

Individualistic Democracy (ID) may seem more like a concept far from practical implementation but it is so closely knitted in our lives that we hardly feel it till the time lack of it, shakes us badly. The exposure to ID is based on principle that you honor the person as a person and let one do or live the way one wants and it brings no impact on your association with the person and you continue your journey hand in hand with the person, with a broad smile on your face, happiness in heart, whether you are sitting on the same berth or you are a watching from a far distance as mere spectator but that bond remains there forever. Such concepts are not easy to implement in life as it requires huge amount of openness, courage and emotional hurly-burly at times, because there is a narrow way you have been operating in your entire life and whatever pleases becomes Intellectual property right of you, which is just a camouflage, no one can become your property ever, you may become the most intimate part of someone’s life and journey and works towards making it fulfilling and nurture it with your love and presence but end of the day it is the choice of the person how one reciprocate, one may acknowledge your efforts and presence or may deny so, but it hardly matters cause you believe in the ideology of Individualistic Democracy and it give universal spaces to one to choose the way one want to respond, you must continue your part undoubtedly and in the way you want, to the extent it doesn’t harm the person and emotions.

So, one has to decide to choose the sphere on to which one wants to live, a sphere of acceptance, love and freedom called as Individualistic Democracy or Just keep enjoying the privileges provided by "DEMOCRATIC INDIVIDUALISM".